Southern Slang And Other Misleading Pleasantries

Buzzfeed published a wonderful post titled “17 Phrases Only Southerners Truly Understand.” Loved it. It made me realize how often we Southerners say one thing and mean another. Watch out New York friends! 😉

In the spirit of my upcoming podcast all about Southern slang, check out some of my favorites from the Buzzfeed article below. Stay tuned for the next episode.

1. “Bless Your Heart.”

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2. “That’s An Interesting Point.”

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3. “Well Isn’t That Special!”

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Nene said it best…

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She’s Not From Around Here

Oops! Your Southern is showing.

I recently had a job interview that began with an unlikely question – “Is that a drawl I hear?” I chuckled in response. Not because it was a funny question, but because like a child playing hide and seek I had been found. Discovered in all my Southern glory. At home in North Carolina it is rare that anyone mentions that I have an accent. – In fact, most Southerners comment upon my lack there of. I tend to over annunciate my words, preferring “ele-men-tary,” to the usual “ella-men-tree” as often said in my native region of the United States.

This encounter led me to think about all the other times since moving to the city that my Southerness has been caught showing – whether that be yelping “y’all” or donning my pearls.

I met up with a contact last week in effort to spread my social roots through the city and was surprised how quickly my lunch acquaintance was able to read me. A fellow North Carolinian herself, she has been living in the city long enough to conceal her soft Southern interior until the most appropriate of moments.

As we sat over Sourdough bread and decorative salads I chatted anxiously about my background and arrival in New York.

“You have a certain Southern politeness,” she said. “There is a very ladylike quality about you.”

I smiled sheepishly. Oops, my Southern was showing! It is not that this was an insult or a compliment. It was merely an observation. But any Southern transplant in the city knows that Carolina graces can at times be a disadvantage in the city. The humble pleasantries can sometimes be interpreted as a reason to be ignored, walked over, or even to be passed over for a job.

In a place where people are often competitive and sing their praises at the top of their lungs, those who are meek do not get heard. I personally have been working on ways to speak up for myself while also remaining true to my learned behaviors.

This is not in the least bit my way of labeling Southern charms as bad, but rather myself noting that New York calls for a certain air of boldness in its residents. Whether that boldness be balancing on the subway without holding onto the rail or calling out your cab driver when he tries something funny with your fare, there is a daily opportunity to learn how to be a little more self-assured.

I still yell “Oh my goodness!” and use the word “lovely” in ironic situations – this is something I will never give up – but I am proud to be learning a few New York mannerisms as well.

Southern Style Takes New York

When I moved to the city I quickly learned that my Southern sense of style wouldn’t fly on New York streets. Anyone who knows me is familiar with my partiality to floral prints, vibrant colors, and patterned pants from J. Crew.

It took me approximately one day to realize that New Yorkers’ favorite colors are black, black, and any other dark hue that resembles black. This was a shock to say the least, considering the fact that my closet resembles that of someone going to daily garden parties or afternoon tea (a girl can wish, right?).

In due time, I embraced my new surroundings realizing the New Yorker’s love for black makes them look effortlessly chic. Hoping to blend in a tad bit more, while also staying true to my Southern style and graduate student budget, I took a trip to Zara to vamp up my look. And guess what! I found a way to infuse florals as well.

Check out the look below and stay tuned as I continue to explore my new hybrid of style. Stay cute my dears!

Why yes, those are magnolia flowers on my dress!
Dress: Zara, Shirt: J. Crew, Shoes: Calvin Klein, Backpack: MochiThings